Updated: May 22
“I don’t trust words. I even question actions, but I never doubt patterns” Unknown
Typically speaking, I prefer to not address myself while writing these, however this particular statement represents my thoughts to a tee, more exciting is the fact I didn’t write them. I have always labeled myself a pattern guy. I just notice them, EVERY WHERE I’m talking about people, situations, interactions, arrangements, and big picture stuff. I am definitely entranced by visual patterns, ESPECIALLY optical illusions, however that is not what I’m speaking of today. A+ B= C, has always just made sense to me, and don’t get me started on balancing chemical equations or converting Physics formulas to appropriate units, I can just do it, easily. The pattern is there, and all you have to do is follow it. I’ve always said words and gestures are cheap. It’s peoples patterns that tell me all. Some times I consciously see the pattern, and can make rational choices and decisions in relation to it. For instance, I always noticed that people who have ashy elbows tended to be malnourished and not drink enough water or take a multivitamin. This would impress people, and they would typically become my clients. I could also do this with sports when I was a college Admissions counselor. I could, and still can, look at a body type and 98% of the time accurately describe what sports they used to do, and even what they do now, if it’s different. Patterns just make sense. Sometimes patterns are assessed subconsciously and cause emotions; a reactive state of being and mind. In those cases I have learned to always trust my gut, my intuition. If emotions come up I listen to them even if I cannot understand or see why. When I haven’t followed it, I have landed myself in some hot situations. All of this to say, that even if you don’t consider yourself a pattern person, you can look for them and see them with practice. Shiny things, like words and actions can deceive. However, a pattern never lies. It just is. People can say and they can act to get what they want, look at sales people, but they cannot change their deep habits or personality traits that spill over into all they say and do. With enough practice, you can easily see and hear what’s real, and hardly perceive the facade. It does merit addressing trauma, and how that can influence our perceptions and pattern recognition. It can deeply affect the way we interact with life. So I while I do trust my gut and intuition, if and when I start to notice patterns around certain people and certain situations that illicit negativity or even fear, that has required inner work for myself. Just remember, you’re worth it. You are enough. Patterns are the natural condition of life, even for humans, open your eyes and you may see.
On this day, I will sit in contemplation of patterns. I will pray or set the intention that I will see a pattern of great importance in my life, and the knowledge to do with it what should be done. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼